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What can I do when my toddler hits?
A calm response, a clear limit, and a chance to practice another way.
Quick Answer
A calm response, a clear limit, and a chance to practice another way.
Keep everyone safe first
Move within reach, block another hit gently, and separate children when needed. A short phrase such as “I won’t let you hit” is easier to follow than a long explanation in the middle of a struggle. Check the person who was hurt. Your child can be upset while you keep the limit on hurting others.
Look at the moment before
Later, think about what was happening: a toy dispute, tiredness, waiting, or difficulty communicating. This is a way to plan support, not a reason to blame someone. Try moving a shared toy into a turn-taking game or offering a break before a crowded activity. Change one part of the setup and notice whether it helps.
Practice while things are calm
Use a toy to rehearse “my turn,” a gesture for help, or moving away. Offer words, pictures, or gestures your child can use. Stay close during the next tricky moment. If injuries, frequent aggression, or changes in behavior concern you, talk with your child’s clinician rather than relying on an online checklist.
Your next little win
Choose one idea that fits today. Keep what helps, adjust what does not, and leave room for your family’s needs.
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Sources and resources
American Academy of Pediatrics / HealthyChildren.org · checked October 9, 2026.
Household examples are original editorial suggestions. General education; health content has not been independently reviewed by a clinician. Ask a qualified professional about individual health, development, or school concerns.