Little WinsParents of Multiples
How do I make individual time for twins or triplets?
Small moments of attention without another impossible schedule.
Quick Answer
Small moments of attention without another impossible schedule.
Use the moments already there
Individual time can be a short conversation while getting dressed or a story with one child while another is safely with a caregiver. It does not need to be an expensive outing. Look for a recurring moment that can hold a little attention. Rotate when practical, without treating the exact number of minutes as a score.
Follow each child’s interest
Ask each child what they would enjoy. One might want a quiet book, another a movement game, and another help with a project. They do not need matching activities or matching responses. Use their names and preferences instead of assigning permanent roles such as “the shy one” or “the difficult one.”
Keep the plan flexible
A sick day or solo-caregiving day may leave little room for separate activities. Offer a small connection and try again later. You can save an individual activity in each child’s planner. Ask relatives to notice each child as a person, too. If one child needs additional support, discuss that need without framing attention as a competition.
Your next little win
Choose one idea that fits today. Keep what helps, adjust what does not, and leave room for your family’s needs.
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Sources and resources
American Academy of Pediatrics / HealthyChildren.org · checked October 9, 2026.
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